Acknowledging yourself as a VIP and clearly defining your goals and intentions to make positive changes in your life are vital steps to self-improvement. However, these can be sabotaged if you have mental obstacles from stopping you, even if you’re not fully aware of them.
What are the barriers standing in your way?
Barriers come in two forms: sometimes they can be self-limiting beliefs or they can be practical barriers.
SELF-LIMITING BELIEFS are those unconscious beliefs that keep us from achieving what we want. They’re so deep-seated in us that we may not even be aware of them, but they make us behave in a certain way. They can often be labels given to us by other people; something said to you as a child which you’ve carried around ever since.
LABELS can be things like: “I’m always late” or “I never finish anything I start”. It could be one person on only one occasion said that, but it’s hit a tender spot and you hold onto it and continue to believe it to be true. This leads to creating repeated patterns and developing our image based on this self-limiting belief, which can really be a BARRIER to SUCCESS.
PRACTICAL BARRIERS include things like
- Not having ENOUGH TIME to do things
- Not PLANNING or PREPARING enough
- A LIFESTYLE that is not flexible
We START to make EXCUSES – they can be perfectly acceptable and it’s convenient to make them!
DIG DEEPLY to identify the reasons WHY you prevent yourself making changes that you know will help you. The most IMPORTANT thing is to acknowledge that these barriers exist.
Prioritising Yourself Makes You Feel Guilty
Often, people feel GUILTY about
- TALKING about themselves
- Making TIME for and themselves
- INVESTING and spending money on themselves.
Saying “no, thank you”, choosing healthier food or even taking time out are all things that sometimes we feel we shouldn’t do.
We FEAR that we may offend someone, rock the boat or inconvenience friends, family and business associates. In my experience mostly people are absolutely FINE when you say what you want (sometimes they are even relieved as they wanted to be open about their choices too!).
We can also feel guilty for allowing ourselves to get into this position in the first place. Just let it go! Don’t feel guilty, just accept that’s where you are now and see it as a positive starting point.
Another common barrier is LACK of TIME, particularly around shopping and cooking healthier food. However you can flip this into a positive change – You have to go shopping and buy food every day or week, so with a little pre planning you may make a CONSCIOUS action to make better decisions when buying groceries.
LIFESTYLE BARRIERS can include WORKING AWAY from home and staying in HOTELS, having a busy SOCIAL LIFE with lots of activities, a HEAVY WORKLOAD or caring for a FAMILY, and sometimes a COMBINATION of these.
I invite you to embrace a healthier way of living which, would give you more energy and expand your time, then you would be able to manage your LIFELOAD and these barriers would melt away.
Accept and Overcome the Barriers
- ACKNOWLEDGE what these barriers are: what are you fearful about?
- Be CONSCIOUS of them and be prepared to LET THEM GO.
One of the easiest ways to get over a barrier is to think of putting a NEW ACTION IN PLACE to overcome what’s already there. Over time, you will find you don’t need to think about these positive new actions, as they’ll become second nature, something that you do as a matter of course.
EVERYONE has something that is holding them back – the fear of the unknown, not having enough time, potential criticism from those around them. TAKE some time to identify them and deal with them, then you will start to make progress with embracing a healthier lifestyle.
Next time, we’ll look at practical ways to ensure you succeed with your goals.
What’s stopping you having a healthier lifestyle slides are available for you to read here: What’s stopping you having a healthier lifestyle?
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